It's been a bit over two weeks since my last official post and I have to admit that it feels much, much longer. I had plans to have the blog pick back up again late last month and earlier this month, however, I've been so social, exhausted, and just overly busy with life lately that I couldn't even arsed to blog sometimes. But after a time, I start to realise how much I miss and love blogging which leads me to days like today, where I'm so bloody exhausted (having slept only 3 hours after not sleeping at all on Monday and going out on Tuesday) and yet, I felt the strongest urge to blog my life away today.

I did finish the July Journaling Challenge, however, I had typed it out and saved it, but didn't schedule it correctly, so it didn't post and as I've been out consistently with no time to do anything aside from crawl into bed, I hadn't noticed. So that was a mess. Now I have to edit it before I post it. I'm sorry for the wait.

Before We Start: Half of this post is a rant. It's a rant on the topic of Body Acceptance/Body Shaming and it was inspired by a post linked to me by a friend. While I'm working on not cursing as much, there is a possibility that this will be laced with ton of curse words. If that makes you uncomfortable, I apologise now. What I do not apologise for is how rude I may come off in response to this entire post because if you're new here and didn't already pick up on it, I refuse to bite my tongue on somethings. If that bother you, I suggest you skip to the end of this post.

So if you're new and/or can not bloody tell, I'm a fat bitch. No, I'm not ashamed of my weight nor do I care if people don't find me attractive based on my weight, I am happy with myself and that's all that matters. Now that's not to say that I hate skinny people or don't mind losing weight because neither is true in my case. However, if there's one thing that truly leaves me gutted; grinding my gears to the point of pretty much fucking up my car's livelihood, it's body shaming. For those who don't know what body shaming is, I suggest you read this post made by BYU Women's Services and Resources alongside this post by Janee Pratt of xoJane.

Now that we all understand how disgusting body shaming is (or, I have hope we have a proper understanding of why body shaming is utter shite), you can probably tell how quickly I felt gutted when I read a post linked to me by fellow blogger and my bro, NIL, so eloquently titled, "Enforcing Skinny Ideal". I, personally, don't recommend you go read it, but if the urge is too strong, then go forth. I can't even begin to explain how truly idiotic this entire post is and how even at the end, this blogger gets so bloody contradictory, it's deplorable. So I'll do what I do best: Take apart this post and destroy it.

Let us start, shall we?

[...] Then I came across this:



Nickolay Lamm designed this Barbie - made to a real woman's proportions - to help battle low self esteem in young girls.

Be honest here - Which doll is prettier?

Well, if we're being honest here, and I mean truly honest, both versions of the doll are prettier. Depending on your take on how people feel about body sizes, both are idealistic. One is slender and athletic and the other curvaeous and slightly thicker. Regardless, both are prettier and acceptable in their own rights. Also, I disagree with the fact that either of these Barbies are accurate depictions of "a real woman's proportions" as there is no appropriate way to say what is or isn't a "real woman" and what their proportions are. So either way, the question of "Which doll is prettier?" and the statement of "This a real woman's proportion" are, in fact, both wrong.

Barbie is often thrown around in this way. With people creating memes that if Barbie were a real woman her neck would be as long as the Eiffel tower and her boobs the size of Mt. Rushmore. She would also have to walk on all fours, don't you know?

Now, I agree with this part of the post. The ideal of Barbie was not to have an elongated neck nor large breasts, but to be proportional. Meaning that whatever an everyday woman's size would be, the rest of them would be equal to the default size. Again, this is something I agree with it. These memes are false and don't take into consideration what Barbie is.

See? I can agree with things and know when to give people their brownie points.

...but we are hardly near complete.

When people look at Barbie, they think 'I want to be skinny like her' or 'I want big boobs like her' never once have I heard anyone say they want Barbie's oddly elongated neck or her permanently pointed feet. That doesn't enter in to it. No one asks for her exact proportions - down to the length of her drawn on eyelashes. So why are we telling kids not to want to be like Barbie?

I don't know what kind of people you've been around, but most people, especially kids have always had the ideal that they wanted to be Barbie in completion. In fact, most people I know wanted to be Barbie in the ideals of being the type of person who could do anything they wanted to do as Barbie was everything from an entrepreneur to a mother or a police officer to a lawyer to a cook. She is what made tons of girls and women alike realise that women are in fact more than just homemakers and baby carriers, they could be anything they wanted to be.

And yes, there are people who think, "I want to be skinny like Barbie" or "I want big boobs like her", but I assure you, most people actually wanted to be Barbie in the aspect of how she was all about female empowerment and nothing short of that.

What's wrong with wanting to be skinny?

Shouldn't we be encouraging that:
Skinny = Good
Fat = Bad

I'm not saying encourage starving - encourage healthy eating and exercise. Encourage kids to be active. Encourage them to see that being obese is a serious illness - and should be treated as such.

"Shouldn't we be encouraging that: Skinny = Good, Fat = Bad?" For fuck's sake, you bloody twat, NO! We should be encouraging that bodies are bodies and that you should never feel any type of way because you are skinny or because you're fat. We should be teaching that being happy with self overpowers being "beautiful". You are never going to be able to help someone lose weight with that ideal. No, obesity should not be placed on a bloody pedestal, but neither should skinniness.

You're also a fucking idiot if you think every fat person is unhealthy or obese. It shows how fucking uneducated you are. Are you aware that there are actually medical reasons and medicines that cause people to gain weight? For example, one of the side effects of birth control is weight gain. Other medicines that can cause weight gain include: Paxil (a medication used as antidepressant or for anxiety), Depakote (a medication used to treat bipolar disorder, seizures, and prevent migraines), Prozac (a medication which is associated with weight loss can actually end up beeing a cause of weight gain in the long term), and Zyprexa (a medication used as an antipsychotic) are some. Let's not get into actual diseases that can cause weight gain such as Hypothyroidism, Crushing's syndrome, or Polycystic Ovary Syndrome.

My problem with people who are so quick to jump to the ideals of obesity being unhealthy is because these are the same gits who don't realise that there are, in fact, some cases in which weight gain may be inevitable. The fact that so many people overlook or cast that aside is sickening in itself and really, they need to educate themselves.

We shouldn't be encouraging that any weight or body shape is better or any more good than the other. What we should be encouraging is that being healthy is ideal. Plus sized models are not obese, skinny models are not unhealthy or purgers/starvation victims. That is what we should be encouraging.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to have the same characteristics of someone you admire, and trying to emulate them.

I want to be skinny like Barbie, and I am working my fucking ass off for it. Why can't everyone? Why can't it be seen as a positive influence - rather than brainwashing?

When I was a kid, I didn't want to play with Barbie because she looked like me. I wanted to play with Barbie because she was beautiful, and I wanted to pretend to be her.

And you're right about this. You're completely correct about there being nothing with wanting to have the characteristics of someone you admire, that's pretty much why admiration is a thing. You tend to see things in the ones you admire that you wish you had. But again, you do not get to tell someone that because they choose not to emulate and understand things as you do, that they are enforcing the wrong ideals, because in that case, only you are wrong.

Playing a game is a fantasy. An escape from reality. I didn't play with my Barbie dolls and imagine them doing mundane things like working 9-5, coming home, cooking dinner, watching TV and then going to bed. I was always a princess in a magical kingdom, or a heroine saving the world.

As a kid playing games - Do you pretend to be yourself?

No.

You pretend to be something / someone else.

Sometimes I would build forts which I pretended were caves, and I imagined I was Simba from the Lion King. Does this mean I wished I was a boy, furry, had a psychotic uncle, and my dad was killed by a herd of Buffalo?

No.

Just meant I was a normal kid, playing in a normal way.

I don't see any reason for people to be trying to change Barbie or attacking her for who she is. You can't try to preach acceptance - that everyone is beautiful - and then bash Barbie for being too perfect.

The problem with this original poster is that they have a tendency to generalize to the highest degree. As a kid playing games, I never pretended to be anyone but myself. When I played games, even house, I was always Yasu, but I was Yasu: The Husband or Yasu: The Cop. As for being someone else? Never. I tried it once and, I'm not gonna lie, it was extremely uncomfortable for me so I never did it again.

Not every child pretends to be someone different they are being a child. Some kids enjoy being themselves and living in a fantasy that they wish to become a reality. Not every kid pretends to be a Disney Princess or Barbie or Simba or whatever...some kids were Billy or Joe or whatever-the-heck-their-name-is because it made them happy. Playing a game is not just an escape from reality, it's a means of happiness as well. Don't forget that aspect of it.

The problem being that this mentality bleeds over in to real life as well.

I used to be skinny *dry laughter*

I forever had people telling me 'Eat something!' or 'You're too skinny!'

But I'm not allowed to say to you that watching you pick bits of mars bar out of your fat rolls disgusts me?

Double standard, much?

And here, lads and lassies, is where the contradictions settle in. You hate when people have said to you that you need to eat something or that you're too skinny, but you want to say that "watching you pick bits of mars bar out of your fat rolls disgusts me" to people bigger than you? I think I speak for most of us rather realistic people when I say: Where in all the fuck does that make sense? Two wrongs don't make a right. The better response to someone who is/was being a little fuckshit to you is to simply ignore them because nothing messes a bully up more than getting no response from you. Trust me, I know this. People like that want a rise out of you and the moment you give them the response they want, not only are they satisfied, but you both look like idiots.

The original poster's idea of what a double standard is terribly, terribly misconstrued and equally as disgusting. The fact that there are people who agree with this ideal (read the comments of the original post), makes me physically ill and I find it so hard to wrap my mind around it.

Now, here's what I have to say. Fuck that post and fuck my argument. This is what's important, okay? Do not ever succumb to what people say about you. Do not ever feel that you aren't beautiful because you are thicker or skinnier than someone else. Do not ever let anyone tell that you what you look like means that you can not be. If there's one thing that I want you to walk away from this rant understanding is this: Whether you are skinny or thick or somewhere in between, you are beautiful. You are anything you want to be. If you're fat and you want to lose weight and you know it's important for your health, then let me be your guide and give you all the motivation to lose that weight. If you're skinny and need to gain weight for health reasons, then do what you need to. If you need to see doctors or whatever, then do it. Do not, and I can't stress this enough, let someone shame you and your body. Shame does not help. Enforcing one weight ideal over another ideal does not help. Enforcing healthiness and happiness is what helps. And by gods, your happiness is far, far more important than anything society and an idiot has to say.

For this post, I used a couple resources for some of the medicines and diseases/syndromes listed. These resources include, WebMD, Mayo Clinic, and Health[dot]com as well as Wikipedia.

Whew. Now that we've gotten the ranting out of the way, how about some pictures? It's been a while since I've posted some pictures from my Instagram, but in the same breath, I can say that I honestly have not used my Instagram as much as I probably could have in recent times. Nonetheless, I have a couple things to share with you. Well, I say a couple, but it's really more than that. There's a good 3 months worth of pictures that I haven't even brought to this blog, so this should be fun, yeah?

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The Calm Before The Storm | 15.06.2013 | After going to get otto, NIL, otto, and I headed to meet up with our twin friend(s) to hang out. Both otto and hadn't seeing them in years (since high school), so it was rather nice to see them again. I snapped this picture while we were in the car, heading to the mall. I hate the way my lipstick looks in the picture, I promise it looked loads better.

The False Nail | 16.06.2013 | Just as the title states. My first time doing falsies on my nails by myself that was before I finished. So, that was a thing. I'm never doing that again without the usage of electronic equipment. That was way too tiring.

The Workaholic's Cuppa | 21.06.2013 | In the midst of coding a new layout, I desperately needed a cuppa and I need it fast and so, this was a thing. And don't hate on my Santa cup. It's been so good to me.

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The Meal of Mates | 29.06.2013 | I don't mean mates in a sexual manner, I mean my bros. This was a day that spent out with my mates Janine and otto. We ended up heading back to Janine's place where she pretty much made fried noodles and fried spam. That shit was banging. There was also soda to go with it, but I decided to skip posting that picture. We had tons of fun and lots of chatting and catching up while we ate. It's was lovely~

Kroger and Shit | 29.06.2013 | One day, my friend Dejaun decided that he wanted to make a pizza, so he texted me and I got my buddy Christian to join us (more like dragged, but whatever). Dejaun is the top left, Chris is the bottom left. I wore minimal makeup that day cause I'm a lazy ass and opted for mixing contacts, I like the mix of this green and blue, it's gorgeous.

Take Two | 29.06.2013 | Another picture from the Kroger outing. Personally, I prefer this picture over the other one which is why it got it's own post instead of being put in a collage.

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Tired Half-Smiles | 01.07.2013 | On this day, I was running on no sleep for however many hours and I decided that I would totally go with my mate to his school's orientation. Halfway through it, I realised that I should have killed myself because obviously, I'm an idiot who was running on no sense of energy or tea or caffeine. 'Twas a sad, sad day for Yasu. I ended up passing out in the car on the way back because the lack of sleep gave me the most intense migraine. On the bright side, I looked cute and got a couple cute ass pictures out it. And more mismatched lenses, this time with the green from the previous mismatched and my old Vassen Super Nudy's in Grey. So I suppose that alls well that ends well.

Megane | 11.07.2013 | Mother, NIL, and I went to Bonefish Grill. I didn't do much to my face because, again, lack of sleep makes you not want to do anything. I've been wearing my glasses a lot more, so that's fun. And I tried to match my pink lenses with one of my brown lenses...I don't like it as much as I thought. Too bad I couldn't change 'em...

Strawberry Shortcake | 29.07.2013 | After heading over to otto's job rue21 for an "interview" (I have a couple problems with how it was done) and making a quick trip to ULTA to waste time, the three of us (otto, NIL, and I) headed over to otto's place. otto decided to make shortcakes and I helped with the whip cream. And yes, that is handmade whipped cream. Whipping that was too fucking tiring.

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Hues of Purples and Lensless | 29.07.2013 | I love this wig, you guys don't even understand. I literally have a fondness for this wig that I can't bloody explain. And I decided that the only way to live life was to wear my usual liner, some red lipstick, and my lensless glasses (they're the glasses from the 3D movies with the lenses popped out. Shh.) I thought I looked adorable. I did switch to pigtails later on. Aaaaaaaand twirl~

Slippin' | 03.08.2013 | This is why I shouldn't be left with a iPhone cmera and my friends while in the car. This is what happens...I caught dem bitches slippiiiiiin~

A Taught Dog Learns The Same Trick | 04.08.2013 | So I'm going back to learning Korean. I learned a good bit beforehand, but I feel like my skills are rusty, so I'm going to revisit everything and start over because that's what bosses do. I'm looking for more study bros. Miss Feelo of Filosophie is one of my study bros. Any other takers?

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The Playist — One | 04.08.2013 | When I was revisiting Korean for the first day, I decided to start posting up my playlists that I would jam to when I was doing shit. Mostly Pandora jams, but it was nice to see the likes that raked up because people shared the same music taste.

Study Materials | 05.08.2013 | I got my cute ass Korean .5mm My Melody pencil, a BIC (I think) .5mm pencil that's empty but I was using as an eraser, two notebooks, and my (well, otto's) Korean For Beginners book.

The Playlist — Two | 05.08.2013 | The second playlist I posted. Again, the love for the songs and shit was really what made me dig these posts.

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The Breakfast of Champions | 05.08.2013 | This was delicious. I did not know what I was missing until I had the Very Berry Hibicus drink carbonated and an Everything on Cheese bagel with cream cheese from Starbucks. So good. Bless.

The Start of A War | 07.08.2013 | This actually started a war betwween us. I happened to fall asleep in the Food Court of Perimeter Mall because I hadn't slept in, literally, two days and I was out. So I fell asleep for a bit while Dejaun took forfuckingever to decide what we should eat. I'll catch him slipping soon.

Colour On The Wall | 08.08.2013 | "Don't Stop (Color On The Walls)" is, by far, one of my favourite Foster The People songs. I don't know what it is specifically, but it's such a damn good song and I live for Foster The People anyway.

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Trouble | 08.08.2013 | I love that when I have a video going, Dejaun always poses. It's fucking hilarious. But this time, he realised it was a video and he asked me if I was posting it and I said, "Yep, putting it on Instagram" and started cackling as you can hear if you watch the video.

Nightlife | 08.08.2013 | If there's anything I can say about Georgia, the nights here and absolutely beautiful. The stillness, although something I'm not used to, is amazing. The lights, although not as many as New York, are gorgeous and the feeling of the wind and night air is lovely. It's something I can never complain about. And yes, Adam Lambert was being blasted cause we're cool. Deal with it.

Vindictus | 08.08.2013 | Dejaun caught my playing one of the new bosses in Vindictus, Iset, and decided to not only rush me, but take a picture. Arse.

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Freshie Fridays | 09.08.2013 | Since both my mate Dejaun and I had nothing to do, we decided that we were gonna pretty much attack my other mate, Christian, for surviving his first three days of high school which could only mean two things: Silly String and Water Balloons. So we made our way over to Dollar Tree after picking up some food and bought silly string and water balloons. We filled the balloons up at Dejaun's house and went back to my neighbourhood to wait. Eventually, we caught him and this was the end result. I took a video of the overall destruction and hahaha, we're horribly amazing.

Pumped Up Kicks | 10.08.2013 | So this was a thing. I'm not even gonna try to explain it. Yes, I called Christian "A little shit" cause he is. And no, he's not like 10 or something. He's about to be 15 and he's said worse to me. We have a lovingly abuse relationship as I do with all my mates. I love that Dejaun was going off on me and I just ignored him. Again, lovingly abusive.

Of No Smiles, Tongues, and Half Shots | 10.08.2013 | Now, I love this collage for the simple fact that the colouring is so pretty. It was raining that day and I don't care what anyone says, rainy days make for bloody gorgeous pictures and this set was no exclusion. The only thing that grinds my gears are my eyebrows. I hadn't gotten the chance to do them before I had to run out of the house and so they look like shite. My brows are naturally are actually in between being really thick and really thin, but it never really shows up in pictures at all, so in order to take good pictures, I have to thicken my brows a bit more so they're noticeable. Sigh; #yasuproblems. Lol. Also, for a set where I'm not wearing any lip balm or gloss of any kind, my lips look pretty good.

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The Playlist — Three | 10.08.2013 | This was a playlist that I was supposed to post previously, but Instagram was being a whore. So I had to repost it with the tags only. Extremely late, I think like a week late. Bless.

The Three Musketeers | 10.08.2013 | So yes, if you've been around and seen my IG videos or some of the pictures I've posted, then you know who these are. I'm around these two almost as often, if not more than, I'm around otto which says a lot.

Of Tights, Shorts, and Boots (w/out the fur) | 11.08.2013 | I was feeling myself that day despite the rainy weather and decided to wear some lace tights, short shorts, and my favourite pair of Charlotte Russe Tribal Print Fold-Over Combat Boot in Ivory. Also, my brown lenses were a thing and I loved it so much. I forgot how exotic it makes me look sometimes.

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The Purge | 12.08.2013 | As I said in the caption, this is why Dejaun is one of my favourite people in the world. This dork.

Husband & Wife | 14.08.2013 | My baaaaaaaaby. A mutual mate of otto's and I, Raven, came up to see us and hang out and of course, there was no way that I was going to see otto and not get at least one picture of us together cause that totally defeats the purpose of us being best mates and star crossed lovers (kidding!).

Starbucks, CDs, and Self | 14.08.2013 | After we sat at otto's house for a bit and she called her mum to tell her she was going out with us, we headed over to Starbucks where I spent like 50$. I shit you not. It's was like 55$ and shit. The addition of CDs to the food and drinks I bought was really what pushed it over the edge cause CDs there are like 12.95$ a piece. So 2 CDs cost me 25.90$ without tax. It was woth it though cause I got Postal Service's Give Up album, which I lovelovelove, and Hugh Laurie's new album, Didn't It Rain (also, I may go see him in November!!! Fingers crossed.))

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Ocho Cinco | 14.08.2013 | It's Monday morning and traffic's fucking with Dejaun and I. So what do we do? Blast French Montana's "Ocho Cinco". Cause that's what the normal folks do. Haaaaah.

I'll Be | 14.08.2013 | Just. This is magnificent. Dejaun's obnoxious singing at 9 at night is really what makes this the best ever.


So we've reached the end of this post. Man, I wish you guys knew how long this took to type out and edit over once. Yeaaaah. 'Twas tiring. Anyway, if you've made it to the end, kudos to you.

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Labels: [opinions], [personals], misc: lotta text, opinion: body image/shape, personal: ranting

It's been a bit over two weeks since my last official post and I have to admit that it feels much, much longer. I had plans to have the blog pick back up again late last month and earlier this month, however, I've been so social, exhausted, and just overly busy with life lately that I couldn't even arsed to blog sometimes. But after a time, I start to realise how much I miss and love blogging which leads me to days like today, where I'm so bloody exhausted (having slept only 3 hours after not sleeping at all on Monday and going out on Tuesday) and yet, I felt the strongest urge to blog my life away today.

I did finish the July Journaling Challenge, however, I had typed it out and saved it, but didn't schedule it correctly, so it didn't post and as I've been out consistently with no time to do anything aside from crawl into bed, I hadn't noticed. So that was a mess. Now I have to edit it before I post it. I'm sorry for the wait.

Before We Start: Half of this post is a rant. It's a rant on the topic of Body Acceptance/Body Shaming and it was inspired by a post linked to me by a friend. While I'm working on not cursing as much, there is a possibility that this will be laced with ton of curse words. If that makes you uncomfortable, I apologise now. What I do not apologise for is how rude I may come off in response to this entire post because if you're new here and didn't already pick up on it, I refuse to bite my tongue on somethings. If that bother you, I suggest you skip to the end of this post.

So if you're new and/or can not bloody tell, I'm a fat bitch. No, I'm not ashamed of my weight nor do I care if people don't find me attractive based on my weight, I am happy with myself and that's all that matters. Now that's not to say that I hate skinny people or don't mind losing weight because neither is true in my case. However, if there's one thing that truly leaves me gutted; grinding my gears to the point of pretty much fucking up my car's livelihood, it's body shaming. For those who don't know what body shaming is, I suggest you read this post made by BYU Women's Services and Resources alongside this post by Janee Pratt of xoJane.

Now that we all understand how disgusting body shaming is (or, I have hope we have a proper understanding of why body shaming is utter shite), you can probably tell how quickly I felt gutted when I read a post linked to me by fellow blogger and my bro, NIL, so eloquently titled, "Enforcing Skinny Ideal". I, personally, don't recommend you go read it, but if the urge is too strong, then go forth. I can't even begin to explain how truly idiotic this entire post is and how even at the end, this blogger gets so bloody contradictory, it's deplorable. So I'll do what I do best: Take apart this post and destroy it.

Let us start, shall we?

[...] Then I came across this:



Nickolay Lamm designed this Barbie - made to a real woman's proportions - to help battle low self esteem in young girls.

Be honest here - Which doll is prettier?

Well, if we're being honest here, and I mean truly honest, both versions of the doll are prettier. Depending on your take on how people feel about body sizes, both are idealistic. One is slender and athletic and the other curvaeous and slightly thicker. Regardless, both are prettier and acceptable in their own rights. Also, I disagree with the fact that either of these Barbies are accurate depictions of "a real woman's proportions" as there is no appropriate way to say what is or isn't a "real woman" and what their proportions are. So either way, the question of "Which doll is prettier?" and the statement of "This a real woman's proportion" are, in fact, both wrong.

Barbie is often thrown around in this way. With people creating memes that if Barbie were a real woman her neck would be as long as the Eiffel tower and her boobs the size of Mt. Rushmore. She would also have to walk on all fours, don't you know?

Now, I agree with this part of the post. The ideal of Barbie was not to have an elongated neck nor large breasts, but to be proportional. Meaning that whatever an everyday woman's size would be, the rest of them would be equal to the default size. Again, this is something I agree with it. These memes are false and don't take into consideration what Barbie is.

See? I can agree with things and know when to give people their brownie points.

...but we are hardly near complete.

When people look at Barbie, they think 'I want to be skinny like her' or 'I want big boobs like her' never once have I heard anyone say they want Barbie's oddly elongated neck or her permanently pointed feet. That doesn't enter in to it. No one asks for her exact proportions - down to the length of her drawn on eyelashes. So why are we telling kids not to want to be like Barbie?

I don't know what kind of people you've been around, but most people, especially kids have always had the ideal that they wanted to be Barbie in completion. In fact, most people I know wanted to be Barbie in the ideals of being the type of person who could do anything they wanted to do as Barbie was everything from an entrepreneur to a mother or a police officer to a lawyer to a cook. She is what made tons of girls and women alike realise that women are in fact more than just homemakers and baby carriers, they could be anything they wanted to be.

And yes, there are people who think, "I want to be skinny like Barbie" or "I want big boobs like her", but I assure you, most people actually wanted to be Barbie in the aspect of how she was all about female empowerment and nothing short of that.

What's wrong with wanting to be skinny?

Shouldn't we be encouraging that:
Skinny = Good
Fat = Bad

I'm not saying encourage starving - encourage healthy eating and exercise. Encourage kids to be active. Encourage them to see that being obese is a serious illness - and should be treated as such.

"Shouldn't we be encouraging that: Skinny = Good, Fat = Bad?" For fuck's sake, you bloody twat, NO! We should be encouraging that bodies are bodies and that you should never feel any type of way because you are skinny or because you're fat. We should be teaching that being happy with self overpowers being "beautiful". You are never going to be able to help someone lose weight with that ideal. No, obesity should not be placed on a bloody pedestal, but neither should skinniness.

You're also a fucking idiot if you think every fat person is unhealthy or obese. It shows how fucking uneducated you are. Are you aware that there are actually medical reasons and medicines that cause people to gain weight? For example, one of the side effects of birth control is weight gain. Other medicines that can cause weight gain include: Paxil (a medication used as antidepressant or for anxiety), Depakote (a medication used to treat bipolar disorder, seizures, and prevent migraines), Prozac (a medication which is associated with weight loss can actually end up beeing a cause of weight gain in the long term), and Zyprexa (a medication used as an antipsychotic) are some. Let's not get into actual diseases that can cause weight gain such as Hypothyroidism, Crushing's syndrome, or Polycystic Ovary Syndrome.

My problem with people who are so quick to jump to the ideals of obesity being unhealthy is because these are the same gits who don't realise that there are, in fact, some cases in which weight gain may be inevitable. The fact that so many people overlook or cast that aside is sickening in itself and really, they need to educate themselves.

We shouldn't be encouraging that any weight or body shape is better or any more good than the other. What we should be encouraging is that being healthy is ideal. Plus sized models are not obese, skinny models are not unhealthy or purgers/starvation victims. That is what we should be encouraging.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to have the same characteristics of someone you admire, and trying to emulate them.

I want to be skinny like Barbie, and I am working my fucking ass off for it. Why can't everyone? Why can't it be seen as a positive influence - rather than brainwashing?

When I was a kid, I didn't want to play with Barbie because she looked like me. I wanted to play with Barbie because she was beautiful, and I wanted to pretend to be her.

And you're right about this. You're completely correct about there being nothing with wanting to have the characteristics of someone you admire, that's pretty much why admiration is a thing. You tend to see things in the ones you admire that you wish you had. But again, you do not get to tell someone that because they choose not to emulate and understand things as you do, that they are enforcing the wrong ideals, because in that case, only you are wrong.

Playing a game is a fantasy. An escape from reality. I didn't play with my Barbie dolls and imagine them doing mundane things like working 9-5, coming home, cooking dinner, watching TV and then going to bed. I was always a princess in a magical kingdom, or a heroine saving the world.

As a kid playing games - Do you pretend to be yourself?

No.

You pretend to be something / someone else.

Sometimes I would build forts which I pretended were caves, and I imagined I was Simba from the Lion King. Does this mean I wished I was a boy, furry, had a psychotic uncle, and my dad was killed by a herd of Buffalo?

No.

Just meant I was a normal kid, playing in a normal way.

I don't see any reason for people to be trying to change Barbie or attacking her for who she is. You can't try to preach acceptance - that everyone is beautiful - and then bash Barbie for being too perfect.

The problem with this original poster is that they have a tendency to generalize to the highest degree. As a kid playing games, I never pretended to be anyone but myself. When I played games, even house, I was always Yasu, but I was Yasu: The Husband or Yasu: The Cop. As for being someone else? Never. I tried it once and, I'm not gonna lie, it was extremely uncomfortable for me so I never did it again.

Not every child pretends to be someone different they are being a child. Some kids enjoy being themselves and living in a fantasy that they wish to become a reality. Not every kid pretends to be a Disney Princess or Barbie or Simba or whatever...some kids were Billy or Joe or whatever-the-heck-their-name-is because it made them happy. Playing a game is not just an escape from reality, it's a means of happiness as well. Don't forget that aspect of it.

The problem being that this mentality bleeds over in to real life as well.

I used to be skinny *dry laughter*

I forever had people telling me 'Eat something!' or 'You're too skinny!'

But I'm not allowed to say to you that watching you pick bits of mars bar out of your fat rolls disgusts me?

Double standard, much?

And here, lads and lassies, is where the contradictions settle in. You hate when people have said to you that you need to eat something or that you're too skinny, but you want to say that "watching you pick bits of mars bar out of your fat rolls disgusts me" to people bigger than you? I think I speak for most of us rather realistic people when I say: Where in all the fuck does that make sense? Two wrongs don't make a right. The better response to someone who is/was being a little fuckshit to you is to simply ignore them because nothing messes a bully up more than getting no response from you. Trust me, I know this. People like that want a rise out of you and the moment you give them the response they want, not only are they satisfied, but you both look like idiots.

The original poster's idea of what a double standard is terribly, terribly misconstrued and equally as disgusting. The fact that there are people who agree with this ideal (read the comments of the original post), makes me physically ill and I find it so hard to wrap my mind around it.

Now, here's what I have to say. Fuck that post and fuck my argument. This is what's important, okay? Do not ever succumb to what people say about you. Do not ever feel that you aren't beautiful because you are thicker or skinnier than someone else. Do not ever let anyone tell that you what you look like means that you can not be. If there's one thing that I want you to walk away from this rant understanding is this: Whether you are skinny or thick or somewhere in between, you are beautiful. You are anything you want to be. If you're fat and you want to lose weight and you know it's important for your health, then let me be your guide and give you all the motivation to lose that weight. If you're skinny and need to gain weight for health reasons, then do what you need to. If you need to see doctors or whatever, then do it. Do not, and I can't stress this enough, let someone shame you and your body. Shame does not help. Enforcing one weight ideal over another ideal does not help. Enforcing healthiness and happiness is what helps. And by gods, your happiness is far, far more important than anything society and an idiot has to say.

For this post, I used a couple resources for some of the medicines and diseases/syndromes listed. These resources include, WebMD, Mayo Clinic, and Health[dot]com as well as Wikipedia.

Whew. Now that we've gotten the ranting out of the way, how about some pictures? It's been a while since I've posted some pictures from my Instagram, but in the same breath, I can say that I honestly have not used my Instagram as much as I probably could have in recent times. Nonetheless, I have a couple things to share with you. Well, I say a couple, but it's really more than that. There's a good 3 months worth of pictures that I haven't even brought to this blog, so this should be fun, yeah?

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The Calm Before The Storm | 15.06.2013 | After going to get otto, NIL, otto, and I headed to meet up with our twin friend(s) to hang out. Both otto and hadn't seeing them in years (since high school), so it was rather nice to see them again. I snapped this picture while we were in the car, heading to the mall. I hate the way my lipstick looks in the picture, I promise it looked loads better.

The False Nail | 16.06.2013 | Just as the title states. My first time doing falsies on my nails by myself that was before I finished. So, that was a thing. I'm never doing that again without the usage of electronic equipment. That was way too tiring.

The Workaholic's Cuppa | 21.06.2013 | In the midst of coding a new layout, I desperately needed a cuppa and I need it fast and so, this was a thing. And don't hate on my Santa cup. It's been so good to me.

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The Meal of Mates | 29.06.2013 | I don't mean mates in a sexual manner, I mean my bros. This was a day that spent out with my mates Janine and otto. We ended up heading back to Janine's place where she pretty much made fried noodles and fried spam. That shit was banging. There was also soda to go with it, but I decided to skip posting that picture. We had tons of fun and lots of chatting and catching up while we ate. It's was lovely~

Kroger and Shit | 29.06.2013 | One day, my friend Dejaun decided that he wanted to make a pizza, so he texted me and I got my buddy Christian to join us (more like dragged, but whatever). Dejaun is the top left, Chris is the bottom left. I wore minimal makeup that day cause I'm a lazy ass and opted for mixing contacts, I like the mix of this green and blue, it's gorgeous.

Take Two | 29.06.2013 | Another picture from the Kroger outing. Personally, I prefer this picture over the other one which is why it got it's own post instead of being put in a collage.

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Tired Half-Smiles | 01.07.2013 | On this day, I was running on no sleep for however many hours and I decided that I would totally go with my mate to his school's orientation. Halfway through it, I realised that I should have killed myself because obviously, I'm an idiot who was running on no sense of energy or tea or caffeine. 'Twas a sad, sad day for Yasu. I ended up passing out in the car on the way back because the lack of sleep gave me the most intense migraine. On the bright side, I looked cute and got a couple cute ass pictures out it. And more mismatched lenses, this time with the green from the previous mismatched and my old Vassen Super Nudy's in Grey. So I suppose that alls well that ends well.

Megane | 11.07.2013 | Mother, NIL, and I went to Bonefish Grill. I didn't do much to my face because, again, lack of sleep makes you not want to do anything. I've been wearing my glasses a lot more, so that's fun. And I tried to match my pink lenses with one of my brown lenses...I don't like it as much as I thought. Too bad I couldn't change 'em...

Strawberry Shortcake | 29.07.2013 | After heading over to otto's job rue21 for an "interview" (I have a couple problems with how it was done) and making a quick trip to ULTA to waste time, the three of us (otto, NIL, and I) headed over to otto's place. otto decided to make shortcakes and I helped with the whip cream. And yes, that is handmade whipped cream. Whipping that was too fucking tiring.

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Hues of Purples and Lensless | 29.07.2013 | I love this wig, you guys don't even understand. I literally have a fondness for this wig that I can't bloody explain. And I decided that the only way to live life was to wear my usual liner, some red lipstick, and my lensless glasses (they're the glasses from the 3D movies with the lenses popped out. Shh.) I thought I looked adorable. I did switch to pigtails later on. Aaaaaaaand twirl~

Slippin' | 03.08.2013 | This is why I shouldn't be left with a iPhone cmera and my friends while in the car. This is what happens...I caught dem bitches slippiiiiiin~

A Taught Dog Learns The Same Trick | 04.08.2013 | So I'm going back to learning Korean. I learned a good bit beforehand, but I feel like my skills are rusty, so I'm going to revisit everything and start over because that's what bosses do. I'm looking for more study bros. Miss Feelo of Filosophie is one of my study bros. Any other takers?

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The Playist — One | 04.08.2013 | When I was revisiting Korean for the first day, I decided to start posting up my playlists that I would jam to when I was doing shit. Mostly Pandora jams, but it was nice to see the likes that raked up because people shared the same music taste.

Study Materials | 05.08.2013 | I got my cute ass Korean .5mm My Melody pencil, a BIC (I think) .5mm pencil that's empty but I was using as an eraser, two notebooks, and my (well, otto's) Korean For Beginners book.

The Playlist — Two | 05.08.2013 | The second playlist I posted. Again, the love for the songs and shit was really what made me dig these posts.

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The Breakfast of Champions | 05.08.2013 | This was delicious. I did not know what I was missing until I had the Very Berry Hibicus drink carbonated and an Everything on Cheese bagel with cream cheese from Starbucks. So good. Bless.

The Start of A War | 07.08.2013 | This actually started a war betwween us. I happened to fall asleep in the Food Court of Perimeter Mall because I hadn't slept in, literally, two days and I was out. So I fell asleep for a bit while Dejaun took forfuckingever to decide what we should eat. I'll catch him slipping soon.

Colour On The Wall | 08.08.2013 | "Don't Stop (Color On The Walls)" is, by far, one of my favourite Foster The People songs. I don't know what it is specifically, but it's such a damn good song and I live for Foster The People anyway.

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Trouble | 08.08.2013 | I love that when I have a video going, Dejaun always poses. It's fucking hilarious. But this time, he realised it was a video and he asked me if I was posting it and I said, "Yep, putting it on Instagram" and started cackling as you can hear if you watch the video.

Nightlife | 08.08.2013 | If there's anything I can say about Georgia, the nights here and absolutely beautiful. The stillness, although something I'm not used to, is amazing. The lights, although not as many as New York, are gorgeous and the feeling of the wind and night air is lovely. It's something I can never complain about. And yes, Adam Lambert was being blasted cause we're cool. Deal with it.

Vindictus | 08.08.2013 | Dejaun caught my playing one of the new bosses in Vindictus, Iset, and decided to not only rush me, but take a picture. Arse.

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Freshie Fridays | 09.08.2013 | Since both my mate Dejaun and I had nothing to do, we decided that we were gonna pretty much attack my other mate, Christian, for surviving his first three days of high school which could only mean two things: Silly String and Water Balloons. So we made our way over to Dollar Tree after picking up some food and bought silly string and water balloons. We filled the balloons up at Dejaun's house and went back to my neighbourhood to wait. Eventually, we caught him and this was the end result. I took a video of the overall destruction and hahaha, we're horribly amazing.

Pumped Up Kicks | 10.08.2013 | So this was a thing. I'm not even gonna try to explain it. Yes, I called Christian "A little shit" cause he is. And no, he's not like 10 or something. He's about to be 15 and he's said worse to me. We have a lovingly abuse relationship as I do with all my mates. I love that Dejaun was going off on me and I just ignored him. Again, lovingly abusive.

Of No Smiles, Tongues, and Half Shots | 10.08.2013 | Now, I love this collage for the simple fact that the colouring is so pretty. It was raining that day and I don't care what anyone says, rainy days make for bloody gorgeous pictures and this set was no exclusion. The only thing that grinds my gears are my eyebrows. I hadn't gotten the chance to do them before I had to run out of the house and so they look like shite. My brows are naturally are actually in between being really thick and really thin, but it never really shows up in pictures at all, so in order to take good pictures, I have to thicken my brows a bit more so they're noticeable. Sigh; #yasuproblems. Lol. Also, for a set where I'm not wearing any lip balm or gloss of any kind, my lips look pretty good.

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The Playlist — Three | 10.08.2013 | This was a playlist that I was supposed to post previously, but Instagram was being a whore. So I had to repost it with the tags only. Extremely late, I think like a week late. Bless.

The Three Musketeers | 10.08.2013 | So yes, if you've been around and seen my IG videos or some of the pictures I've posted, then you know who these are. I'm around these two almost as often, if not more than, I'm around otto which says a lot.

Of Tights, Shorts, and Boots (w/out the fur) | 11.08.2013 | I was feeling myself that day despite the rainy weather and decided to wear some lace tights, short shorts, and my favourite pair of Charlotte Russe Tribal Print Fold-Over Combat Boot in Ivory. Also, my brown lenses were a thing and I loved it so much. I forgot how exotic it makes me look sometimes.

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The Purge | 12.08.2013 | As I said in the caption, this is why Dejaun is one of my favourite people in the world. This dork.

Husband & Wife | 14.08.2013 | My baaaaaaaaby. A mutual mate of otto's and I, Raven, came up to see us and hang out and of course, there was no way that I was going to see otto and not get at least one picture of us together cause that totally defeats the purpose of us being best mates and star crossed lovers (kidding!).

Starbucks, CDs, and Self | 14.08.2013 | After we sat at otto's house for a bit and she called her mum to tell her she was going out with us, we headed over to Starbucks where I spent like 50$. I shit you not. It's was like 55$ and shit. The addition of CDs to the food and drinks I bought was really what pushed it over the edge cause CDs there are like 12.95$ a piece. So 2 CDs cost me 25.90$ without tax. It was woth it though cause I got Postal Service's Give Up album, which I lovelovelove, and Hugh Laurie's new album, Didn't It Rain (also, I may go see him in November!!! Fingers crossed.))

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Ocho Cinco | 14.08.2013 | It's Monday morning and traffic's fucking with Dejaun and I. So what do we do? Blast French Montana's "Ocho Cinco". Cause that's what the normal folks do. Haaaaah.

I'll Be | 14.08.2013 | Just. This is magnificent. Dejaun's obnoxious singing at 9 at night is really what makes this the best ever.


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